COUPLE WITHOUT LIMITS
Major publications and
productions have come up with wonderful programs based on the individual man or
the individual woman. We have seen shows and books with titles such as Mighty man of Valor, Man of Integrity, The Unstoppable Woman and The Fearless Wife. We however don’t
have much material about young couples. This is why in this article we are
going to concentrate on the COUPLE
WITHOUT LIMITS. We are going to look at the young couples who have just
gotten into the union of marriage and how powerful their union is.
It is true that the modern world
doesn’t regard the marriage institution with the dignity that it deserves. There
are many who frown upon marriage not because of anything else but just because
they prefer having their “freedom” intact. Many consider marriage as some kind
of prison in which individual liberties are curtailed and one’s own personality
dissolved. There are those who have watered down the institution of marriage to
the point of regarding it as an open ended contract that can be entered into
and terminated without any solid reason. Nowadays many people date just for the
sake of dating and others court just because people court. There are many nowadays
who prefer enjoying the benefits of marriage without encountering the sacrifice,
commitment and responsibilities that come with marriage. When two people commit
to get married they are always discouraged through such phrases as “marriage is
not worth it” or “marriage is hard” or “another fool rushes in.” Many newlyweds
have overheard during their wedding celebrations all manner of discouraging
facts about marriage.
All these notwithstanding, it’s
important to understand first and foremost that marriage is not for cowards or
the faint hearted. Marriage takes courage, guts and the highest level of commitment
for it to work. It has been said in some quarters that “marriages don’t work, you work on them.” It involves losing yourself
in a union that is constantly under attack and negative criticism. It takes
integrity, vision, warrior like courage and the ruthlessness of a general for
one to protect and defend their marriage from both the internal and external
attacks.
An ideal marriage can be very
liberating. When two people come together in holy matrimony their union is
sanctioned by God. A couple that allows God to be at the center of their
relationship have at their disposal a potent weapon. When a man commits to love
his wife as Christ loved the church and when a woman positions herself in her
God given position in order to function within her purpose, and with God by
their side, then they are a majority. Remember that one can chase a thousand
and two can chase ten thousand. Add God to such a union and you have a fortress
of a marriage which becomes a united Kingdom that’s hard to divide. The Bible
says that a Kingdom divided against itself cannot prosper and as such a couple
in agreement is a fortified Kingdom.
When a couple chooses to work in
agreement in whatever they do, they form a strong team which then moves in
order, they move as a regiment with the power to vanquish and destroy the
obstacles set by the enemy against them. That is why men who are looking
forward to getting married should understand that he who finds a wife finds a
good thing and obtains favor from the lord.
There’s some kind of favor that
comes with marriage that cannot be found anywhere else. If this wasn’t true
then God himself would not have stated it in such clear terms. It is therefore
prudent for a couple to take full grasp of every God given favor available for
their marriage. We have witnessed many people who were regarded as being “good
for nothing” being transformed when they get married. Many unkempt and
unfocussed men have experienced tremendous change after getting married. This
kind of transformation is not just a normal thing that happens when people get
married, it is FAVOR.
A man’s superior form of
achievement is coming to a point where he’ll be able to exalt his word above
his own name while a woman’s superior form of achievement is being able to lead
in her role. A combination of these two attributes is a major ingredient to a
happy and successful marriage and family.
The joy of marriage is far much superior
in comparison to the cheap thrills that come with premarital and extramarital
affairs. While the world has conditioned us to believe that sleeping around is
the in thing, the reality is that sexual sin brings with it a bitter sting of
death. The moment a man or a woman chooses unfaithfulness, what they have
chosen to do is to create a wedge in their Kingdom. Infidelity splits the once
potent Kingdom right in the middle from top to bottom. It brings about a
division in the marriage and everything about the marriage starts to crumble
bit by bit. Hearts are broken and investments dwindle, happiness and laughter disappear
off the window and heaviness and darkness settles in.
Let’s not be deceived, infidelity
creates a major shift in the relationship and as much as we may choose to
forgive the offender, the reality is that things will never be the same again
for that union. The scar of infidelity will never ever go away and it’ll always
serve as a constant reminder of the pain, betrayal and the mess that we had to
deal with.
This therefore means that couples
who love each other should protect each other. They should cover each other and
encourage each other throughout their journey. This should be an everyday
mission. Remember that love covers a multitude of sins and as such we need to understand
what loving your spouse really means. Husbands have been tasked with the heavy
task of loving their wives as Christ loved the church. You just need to look at
what Christ did for the church to understand that loving your wife is not an easy
task. It then follows that for those who are dating the words “I LOVE YOU” should not be used just anyhow
unless one really means it. It is a fact that any meaningful relationship has
to be tested. The question therefore is, after the tides and the storms have
subsided, what is it that will remain of your LOVE?
I believe in the saying that “if you are not willing to share in my
struggles, then don’t be willing to share in my glory.” This means that if
you are dating someone and the tides rise and the storms rage, how they react
after that season of pain in your relationship will give you an idea of the
kind of person they are. Anyone who threatens to leave you whenever you are
down might not be the kind of person who will stand with you in your struggles.
They however are the kind of people who will be so willing to share in your
glory. The last thing you want is to get into a lifelong commitment with
someone who is double minded and who will always be dragging you down.
In conclusion, it should be the
goal of every couple to ensure that there’s always harmony in their
relationship. They should always live, move and have their being in the
almighty God. They should always strive to live in unity and order in order to
create a powerful Kingdom of their own. After all there’s nothing as fulfilling
as enjoying the benefits of the Kingdom that you’ve worked so hard to build.
Then and only then will you become a COUPLE WITHOUT LIMITS.
Then and only then will you become a COUPLE WITHOUT LIMITS.
By: Washington Mwangi Kinyanjui
